Should You Hire a Band or a DJ For Your Wedding?

The lists are endless and everyone has their opinion on which music will get them on the dance floor. Here are some things to consider before you cross “music” off your wedding to-do list.

The perfect dress? Check. A beautiful venue? Check. The music and entertainment? Eh…almost! The day you have both been dreaming about is almost here and you are still torn between a DJ and a band for your wedding day. You could ask your closest friends or Bob over in accounting which they preferred on their big day, but the results will always be the same — a tie. So here are four simple things you can do prior to the down payment

1. Ask For Referrals

Ok, hear us out — just a few sentences before this we threw in the bit about ‘Bob in accounting’ and how you’re likely to receive mixed responses for the music. Our generation has been gifted with the luxury of modern-day technology. Don’t be afraid to post questions on your personal Facebook page or local Facebook groups you are a part of and ask about their experience. Reach-out to a few close friends and family members and ask why they did or did not enjoy their music choice. This will be a great opportunity for you to keep a list of bands or DJs you want or definitely do not want.

2. Pay Close Attention

If you have any weddings in the near future, be sure to pay close attention to the music they play. Regardless if it is a band or a DJ, make a mental note (or a note in your phone if you can) of what makes people get out of their seats, grab their friend and let loose. It’s also important to recognize which songs force people to leave the dance party and mingle in the corner with their friends. A great band or DJ will understand there is a balance of genres and tempos to play so that there is always a steady amount of people partying it up on the dance floor.

3. Consider the Reception Space

Whether it’s an indoor or outdoor wedding, you will want to discuss your options with the venue. They might have recommendations for which is best with the space you’ve chosen. A smaller indoor venue might do better with a DJ. A large open space might have better acoustics for a band. The physical space might have constraints and could force you to narrow your decision quickly from a 20-piece live band to a DJ flying solo. The theme or vibe you’d like to convey could sway your choice from a DJ to a band. So the space you have could be key in the decision making process.

**4. What Will Make YOU Happy?**

Of course you want to keep your guests happy, but at the end of the day, it is about you and the love of your life! What kind of music is going to get you out and party like it’s 1999? Which type of musician(s) will have you and your significant other hand-in-hand and make you feel like you’re the only two people in the room? Keeping your guests entertained is extremely important, but if you have a preference of band over DJ or vice versa, then don’t let that stop you from dancing your heart out on the Best. Day. Ever!

And 3,2,1….Get ready for all the questions from your friends, family and co-workers. When’s the date? Where’s your venue? Were you surprised? Can I see your ring? When are you planning on having kids!?

Don’t allow the pressure of family and friends questions to add stress to your journey. We know it can become repetitive. Just remember, this is a time in your life that you CAN brag about the glory, the enjoyment and the emotions you feel.

Of course you aren’t going to have all the questions answered right away, but with these 8 tips you will soon enough! Congratulations again and happy planning!

Insure / Size Your Ring

Diamonds are a major investment for most couples. You’ll first need to have your ring appraised to evaluate it’s worth. They will evaluate the 4 C’s of a diamond: color, cut, clarity, and carat weight. To give you an idea, the cost of insurance on a $10,000 ring is roughly $200 annually. Your insurance can just be added to your homeowners / renters policy. While having your ring appraised, consider getting it sized as well. You’ll feel a bit naked and sad giving up your beautiful new ring, but when you get it back it’s like you just got engaged all over again! Jewelers can take up to a couple weeks to get your ring resized, so make sure to plan this around your engagement pictures/family visits so you don’t miss the opportunity to show it off!

Share Your News

Spread the love and announce your latest news! Share your pics and the special moments captured. If you had a videographer record your marriage proposal, you may want to post it on social media so your friends and family can witness your emotions and see how joyful your engagement day was.

Don’t forget to change your Facebook status to engaged! *cheesy but you know you want to*

And you’ll want to start thinking of hashtags if you haven’t already!! #soontobeagoone

Choose Where

Ok so now begins the long standing debate of the destination vs local wedding! Some travel agents coordinate with hotels/venue/room blocks for destination weddings. There are also event planners specializing in destination weddings. Couples that decide on a destination wedding tend to deal with the event coordinator at the venue they choose. Just be aware that some venues and coordinators are subject to “island time” and responses may take longer than you’d expect. Think about some of the pros and cons of a local wedding vs destination.

Once you have where figured out, the real fun begins!

Con: Legalities
Con: You Aren’t In Full Control
Con: People You Care About Might Not Make It
Con: Your Family Is on Your Honeymoon

Pro: Smaller Guest List Means Less Expensive Reception
Pro: Honeymoon at Your Dream Location
Pro: Activities
Pro: Backdrop

Figure Out Your Budget & Make Your Guest List

Before you start planning anything you’ll need to figure out your budget. It’s time to talk with your family on who will help pay for what. It may be awkward, but the conversation has to happen and the sooner you have the answers the sooner you can start planning! Don’t expect your family to pay for anything. Receive their gesture as a blessing.

Before you pick a venue you need to figure out how many people there will be. Be realistic about the number of guests you’re inviting to avoid stress later on.

Get Some Guidance

The Knot just made life a lot easier. Nearly every vendor in your area is listed by location, distance, style, and price range. Videographers, Florists, Jewelers, Venues, DJ’s, Beauty, etc. are all on this website where you can effortlessly keep track of all correspondence.

If you don’t have the time or don’t want to DIY you should consider hiring an event planner. A few of our favorites in the St. Louis area are Saving Grace Occasions, Allyssa Elaine, Events, Hillary J Events and K.Hart Events.

Create A Pinterest

Time to start pinning if you haven’t started already! Make a private board on Pinterest so friends that follow you won’t see your pins. There are sooo many options to look at; centerpieces, dresses, beauty tips, color schemes, dessert ideas, hair styles, and so much more. Creating these boards will help when it comes time to meet with vendors. You will certainly have a picture or five ready to show the bakery the style cake you want or to show the florist what type of flowers you’re going with. This website should help you get organized, but don’t be overwhelmed by the amount of information. Remember, this is YOUR wedding and it doesn’t have to look like all the pictures online.

Start Envisioning

Pickup a magazine from Saint Louis Bride and start creating your vision board! Get inspired! These visuals make everything more exciting. The articles share about planning, real wedding stories and local vendors. STL Bride will keep you in the loop about everything going on in the St. Louis area and of course all the latest trends.

*Planning Tip* We’ve heard it helps to make a new email address for your wedding planning correspondence with vendors. This way the messages won’t fill up your personal email and you can share access with your partner, parents or whoever else is involved with the process!

Wedding Shows

Get out and actually meet those that will be a part of your big day. You most likely won’t find all of your vendors through a wedding show, but it might be nice to see what all is available in your community. Search for vendors that invite you into their office. This is (one of) the most important day(s) of your life. Work with people that appreciate and understand that. Always meet your vendors face to face. It will help put you at ease.

A few upcoming shows in the St. Louis area are

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